Parenting and PTSD
This article is one of the best I’ve come across for understanding how the transition into parenthood can bring so many changes not only physically but mentally and emotionally.
I care about the wellness of mothers and sometimes relationships that form enough of a rapport to truly get to the deeper issues are difficult to form in a strictly clinical setting. As a Doula, I’m able to sit with my clients and listen. I’m not worried about a diagnosis or billing code or prognosis, I’m not worried about the 8 other patients I’m seeing that day or what to prescribe. I’m lucky, I get to support the person at their level. If they feel like opening up, I’m there to listen. Sometimes that is all the difference.
My goal is to offer this compassion to all parents, in all phases of parenting. I have a dream that some day we will arrive at a place culturally where parenting will be recognized for the significant impact it brings, and progress to a more supportive response. At work, at home, and in our relationships collectively.
This is just one small part of that discussion. I believe Doulas are an integral part in making this transition smoother and supporting growing families outside of a strictly clinical environment. Why does something have to be in a crisis or medically suboptimal to warrant intervention? Why aren’t we supporting for the sake of supporting? Prevention could very well alter our outcomes for the better. I’m reminded by the phrase, “just because a problem isn’t reported, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist”. There needs to be more acceptance for transitioning into parenthood with all the highs and lows without the stigma of “struggling” deterring us from reaching out or even recognizing our troubles.
To all the parents out there…I’m right there with you.
-Natalie